Posted by: secondeguerremondialeclairegrube | December 30, 2012

Love, Sex and War

Love, Sex and War

Grüß Gott !

English women, during the Second World War, discover freedom and new experiences, following the friendly invasion of American troops.

Love, Sex and War / John Costello / Heretical.co / Internet.uk:

« Thus British men were sent to decimate their closest cousins, the Germans, while many of their women copulated with Negroes in their absence. The German propaganda leaflet which is used as a motif for these pages was not only accurate, it was an understatement. Americans were sent to kill their cousins too : the ethnic German component in early North America was such that German almost became the national language. »

« The Yanks are « lease-lending » your women. Their pockets full of cash and no work to do, the boys from overseas are having the time of their lives in Merry Old England. »

«  And what young woman, single or married, could resist such « handsome brute from the wide open spaces », to have dinner with, a cocktail at some night-club, and afterwards …  »

« One of the most astonishing revelations is the degree to which war increases female libido. »

« In Britain, a fashion raged for having sex in doorways and against walls (‘wall jobs’) due to a widespread belief that pregnancy would not result from having sex standing up. This shedding of female inhibitions might in Britain be attributed to the bombing of cities and a ‘ live for today for tomorrow we might die ‘ philosophy… »

« Another important lesson to be drawn from the book is that : no women are to be trusted – none, not one, not any ! Compelling evidence is provided of the recurrent, compulsive attraction women have for foreigners, …  findings which are confirmed in Smith’s When Jim Crow Met John Bull. »

« The emotional turbulence of war left a lasting impact on many marriages. Traditionally wives had waved their husbands off to war on the assumption that strict fidelity was incompatible with soldiering, but such was total war that even on the home front many wives were confronted by new choices and opportunities. One English woman who confessed she had ‘ enjoyed herself ‘ conceded that the old dual standard of feminine fidelity was no longer acceptable to wives.The constancy of wives and sweethearts became a preoccupation for all servicemen and a gnawing anxiety for front-line soldiers in World War II anxiously awaiting every letter from home …“

« Many British women, through loneliness and circumstance, broke social conventions and their husbands’ hearts following the ‘friendly invasion’ of American troops in the year before D-Day. ‘ Our own servicemen were set aside for the Americans, who appeared more glamorous in every way because of the movies and their generosity with money, ‘ recalled one British woman. »

Love, sex and war / John Costello / Changing values 1939-45 / Collins London / 1985:

„ Women celebrated their new freedom with liberated fashions and liberal behaviour. They bobbed their hair, donned short skirts, smoked in public and whore the heavy make-up which had formely been the attribute of a harlot. “

„ We were not really immoral, there was a war on, was how one British housewife explained her behaviour during Word War II. So pervasive was this attitude that it seem that sexual restraint had been suspended for the duration …“

„ In the same way, many British women attributed their wartime immorality to air raids.“

„ Personnal relationships were formed between men and women out of sheer lonelines and the need to be loved.“

„ Total war subjected whole civilian populations to extremes of violence and disruption. This stimulated the urge to love and be loved, and led to a rapid increase in extramarital sexual activity. Along with the rise in juvenile sexual delinquency the statistical barometer indicates the extend to which men, women, and adolescents were eventually to turn to sex as one of the few freely available wartime pleasures.“

„ The most wonderful days of my life, recalled a British woman.“

„ Those days were dreams, every day exciting whether it was good or bad excitement, remembered another.“

„ What women want is complete freedom – or, to put it bluntly, complete licence.“

„ Traditionnally wives had waved their husbands off to war on the assumption that strict fidelity was incompatible with soldiering, but such was total war that even on the home front many wives were confronted by new choices and opportunites. One English woman who confessed she had „ enjoyed herself “ conceded that the old dual standard of feminine fidelity was no longer acceptable to wives.“

„ Personal relationships were formed between young men and women out of loneliness and the need to be loved “, one British wife recalled of her own wartime affairs. As a twenty four-year old mother of an eighteen month child, „ sheer terror “ overtook her life when her husband was called up into the RAF and she was left alone to face the bombing raids on Manchester. One night she heard a German parachute landmine sweep over her roof and demolish nine houses in the next road as she huddled with her baby under the stair case. Like many others „ Mary “ is convinced that it was this brush with death that led her into an affair which she looks back with few regrets and little guilts.“

„ The Yanks arrived and set up camps near Manchester, bringing a wave of glamour, romance, and excitement that has never been experienced before or since. They were not welcomed by the British men, but to the English girls they were wonderful.“ (…) There I was introduced to an American army captain. He was tall with blonde hair and blue eyes.“ (…) So it happened that we finally made love.“ (…) There was nothing cheap about our affaire, and if Rick had my body, my heart was with my husband and somehow I didn’t feel that I was doing anything wrong.“ (…)  Yet Rick and I were together for two years during the final stages of the war, (…)  Then my husband returned home and we tried to resume our old way of life.“

„ Many British women, through loneliness and circumstance, broke social conventions and their husbands’ hearts following the „ friendly invasion “ of American troops in the year before D-Day. Our own service men were set aside for the Americans, who appeared more glamorous in every way because of the movies and their generosity with money, recalled one British woman.“

„ Procreation and death are after all the extreme parameters of human existence. They are brought into sharp conjunction by war.“

„ The „ friendly invasion “ of the Yanks satisfied the sexual hunger of some British women who found the long wartime separation from their husbands unendurable. One of these was a Birmingham nurse who fell in love with a curly-haired American lieutenant :

„ We met often and began to like each other. One night, Curly said „ Let’s go on our own night.“ We did and landed up in a deserted air-raid shelter  where we made love. We did this several nights. I was worried, as there was one thing I had not told him. I was already married. When the war came to an end, Curly went back to America. We wrote often to each other. But then my husband came home, so I stopped writing to him as I was so afraid that my husband would find his letters. When I had a son, I kept wishing it was Curly’s. “

„ They started by not meaning any harm jut desiring a little change from the monotony of looking after their children, queueing for food, and cleaning house with no man to appreciate them or their cooking. Another man would come along. It is bad luck if she is married, but he means no harm, nor does it cross her mind at first that she could ever be unfaithful to Bill overseas.“

„ He is lonely, she is lonely, he smiled at her, she smiled back, and it’s an introduction.“

„ As a war time consellor  Miss Cartland admitted that it was hard to condemn the girls for succumbing to the temptations of wartime promiscuity.“

„ Miss Cartland adopted a down-to-earth practicality when dealing with husbands who had faced death and danger on the battelfeld unflinchingly but who were „ white-faced and shaken “ when they returned to find that their wife was expecting another man’s child.“

„ Of the 5.3 million infants delivered between 1939  and 1945, over a third were illegitimate – and this wartime phenomenon was not confined to any one section of society. The babies that were born out of wedlock belonged to every age group of mother, concluded one social researcher.“

„ Some were adolescent girls who had drifted away from homes which offered neither guidance nor warmth and security. Still others were women with husbands on war service, who had been unable to bear the loneliness of separation.“ There were others who had a single lapse, often under the influence of drink.“

„ Since it appears that the more mature women were the ones most encouraged by the relaxed morals of wartime to enjoy themselves it may be surmized that considerations of fidelity were no great restraint on the  urge of the older married woman to participate in the general rise in wartime sexual promiscuity.“

„ Babies born to married women in Britain were regarded as legitimate unless registered otherwise and therefore children who were fathered by someone else other than the husband were often declared illegimate and did not appear in illegimatecy statistics. That many British women married to absent servicemen did bear children is confirmed by the detailed investigation conducted by some of the larger municipal authorities.“

„ The records kept by Birmingham, for example, indicate that almost a third of all confessed illegitimate births were to married women and that the pre-war rate had trebled by 1945. Although this level was pushed up by the large number of American service camps around the urban area, a similar rise was observed in other large cities.“

„ Illegitimacy rates were highest among the young wives of servicemen, suggesting that their work in war production encouraged an independence that often snapped the bonds of marital fidelity already strained by the extended absence of their husbands.“

„ To British women the arrival of the Americans was a bright flash of excitement after nearly three years of blackouts and blitz. It seemed to many that these strapping, well-fed and confident young men had stepped straight out of a Hollywood film. “

„ Many British wives and sweethearts had been deprived of their own husbands and boyfriends for so long that it was difficult to resist the affectionate enthusiasm of so many good-looking males.“ (…) the finer cloth and more flattering cut of their uniforms, which set them apart from British, Canadian, and Polish troops. This difference in physical appearance, combined with their relaxed self-assurance, accounted for their glamorous attraction for most British women.“

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The increased woman’s libido was due to :

  • the war
  • the danger
  • the patriotic duty
  • the bombing raids
  • the need to be loved
  • the brush with death
  • the wave of glamour
  • the bombing of cities
  • the wave of romance
  • the influence of drink
  • the wave of excitement
  • the good-looking males
  • the war-time promiscuity
  • the generosity with money
  • the work in war production
  • the loneliness of separation
  • the tomorrow we might die
  • the providing of excitement
  • the relaxed morals of wartime
  • the irresistible handsome brute
  • the unability to bear loneliness
  • the monotony of cleaning house
  • the lack of warmth and guidance
  • the flattering cut of the uniforms
  • the new choices and opportunities
  • the monotony of looking after the children
  • the absence of a man to appreciate their cooking

Claire GRUBE

 

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